1. It is full of fake profiles both for men and women (feedback from male friends). They really are desperate to keep you on the app and that's why women have 24h to send the message and the other person has to reply within 24h as well otherwise the match disappears. This means that if you forget to check your phone or you get busy you have to swipe again for new matches, you can get matches with the expired ones again , this keeps you on the app forever...
2. Fake profiles keep chatting to you and saying hi and how was your day and then disappear , just to keep you on the app.
3. If you get matched with someone real they are expecting the women to make the conversation I guess as they are only able to ask about your day or what's your job , or maybe they are just bots chatting , who knows.
4. The real people want to meet straight away or within a few days of matching. Unfortunately those tend to be frustrated perverts who are trying to to get you in their area or close , that's another question they ask, which area do you live in to figure out if you are convenient for them. Charming.
5. Many people just drop off for no reason, forget to check the app, if you don't respond straight away.
6. Many ask for the number and if you are stupid enough to give it to them do expect strange call, banking scam texts, especially as a woman it is not smart to give a number straight away, wait until you had a good chat. You can chat or call or even do a video call on the app so there is no need to give out any personal info and your phone number is a part of your banking details so really it is very silly to give it to a photo as you don't even know who is behind that photo. Me personally I would only give my number after I meet in person. If I want to see them again that is. Another reason why they might want your number is to ask you some rude question that they know that it would get them blocked and reported from the app so what they do, they ask your number, delete you from the app so you can't report them , and they they can ask you rude questions, send rude photos or do whatever they want with no consequences. Just don't do it.
7. Expect to get abuse if you are the wrong nationality. This happened to me A LOT. Best case scenario they disappear or delete you but they can throw in a few stereotypes for a good send off.
8. The concept of women making the first step is flawed - men are supposed to be the hunters and the initiators. I understand this is to protect women from pests but I think it backfired and now men are getting lazy at best and completely passive at worst. If you send them a 'hi' which would be more than enough in real life , they send 'hi' back and expect you to lead the conversation whereas if that was in a bar you'd be gone by then and they would be reminiscing the smell of your perfume if they are lucky.
9. No effort profiles. A few photos and 'ask me anything' . Really? Who has the time to interrogate strangers for basic info.
10. Lying about their age, height, job, location, marital status, kids. Everything to make themselves seem a better catch. It all comes out soon and it's just a huge waste of everyone's time.
Conclusion: I think this is a great app if you enjoy being single and just want to waste a lot of time swiping on your phone, enjoy. Much better to meet people in real life.
(based on my experiences and many other female friends from London, over several years of using the app)
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